I am Proud of You

I am proud of you, and clearly you don’t know that.

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What does it mean? Being proud of someone. Or simply. Saying that you are proud of someone. What does it do? What effect does it make? What good does it make?

Being proud of someone stays with yourself. Because you are the one who is proud. You are the one who is feeling those feelings. You are the one who gets to go around and tell others about the person, or quite frankly, the object that you are proud of. Being vocal about it only makes your feeling visible. It lets others know that you are proud of that object. It lets the person know that you are proud of that person. 

But so what? What you are really doing, is showcasing your happiness for the object’s success. You are siphoning your happiness off from the object’s accomplishments. You benefit from it. Because you get the happiness without doing anything. You didn’t do the work, you didn’t own the success, you didn’t get the achievement. What does it leave the object with?

The object knows that you are proud of it. And what? Then what? A pat on the back would be much more effective than saying that you are proud. What is being proud of that person without action? Words. Just words.

If you feel like you have the need to express your pride in the object through words, it means one thing: you actions couldn’t reflect it enough to make it made known. The most important thing about being proud of a person is to distinguish whether you want yourself to benefit from it or the other person. Are you happy that you could receive recognition for the object without actually putting in the hard work to get that success? Or are you happy for the person and hope that the person could get further as to receive the recognition that the person deserves?

“I am proud of you, and clearly you don’t know that,” she said.

Yeah. I wonder why.

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